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At Genea, we understand that Mother's Day isn't all sunshine and breakfast in bed.

For those trying to conceive, this day can feel like a spotlight on everything that hasn’t gone to plan. From social media posts filled with breakfast trays and glitter-glue cards to well-meaning questions from friends and family, it can feel like everyone else is celebrating something you're still waiting for.

Why Mother’s Day can feel so difficult during IVF

In a recent episode of What to Inject When You’re Expecting, podcast host Cassie Silver spoke with Dr Chandrika Parmar, Director of Genea Melbourne City, about why this particular day hits differently for women going through IVF.

Dr Parmar described how Mother's Day and its heavy commercialisation can act as a painful reminder of what hasn’t happened yet. The constant stream of marketing emails, social posts, and celebratory messaging can feel impossible to avoid, especially when you're navigating grief, uncertainty, or disappointment.

Honouring your journey (even if it looks different)

You don’t need to wait until you're holding a baby in your arms to honour your experience. Every injection, every decision, every moment of strength it all matters.
Dr Parmar encourages patients to acknowledge that what they’re going through deserves recognition. “You are showing up. You are doing this. That is something to be proud of.”
Some women find comfort in small rituals journaling, lighting a candle, taking time offline, or spending the day doing something that feels restorative and private. Whatever you choose, it should be yours not dictated by tradition or expectations.

Responding to difficult questions with grace

Comments like “You’re next!” or “When will it happen for you?” are often said without malice, but they can still hurt. Dr Parmar suggests keeping responses neutral and non-specific. A simple “Thanks for thinking of us we’ll share when we’re ready,” is kind, clear, and self-protective.

Support Is always available

For those who feel stuck in sadness or overwhelmed by emotion, seeking support can make a world of difference. Genea provides access to experienced fertility counsellors who understand what you’re going through. You are not alone in this.
Mother’s Day will come and go. And when it does, we hope you’ll remember this: you are not defined by this day, or this chapter. You are enough exactly as you are.

If you need support

Genea offers emotional support services through our network of experienced fertility counsellors, available to patients undergoing treatment with us. If you're part of the Genea family, please know you can reach out anytime.
We understand that it can be overwhelming to get started on your fertility journey. To set your mind at ease and find out clear next steps, connect with our Fertility Concierge today.

Disclaimer: Please note that this is a Genea Group blog and as such information may not be relevant for all clinics. We advise that you consult clinics directly for further information.